A Bimbo, Re-Defined

...a princess's diary...

jeudi, mars 24, 2005

Hidden secrets to get women in bed fast

This morning, chirpily checked my email.

ARGH. got this spam mail, titled: Hidden secrets to get women in bed fast.

Kill me, kill me now. man, hate spammers!

Isn't it sad to know that some men (if not, ALOT of men) out there, are thinking of getting women in bed fast? Given that this spam mail's target audience is men, and it has to start with a header that attracts men to read on.

What is the big fat deal of getting women into bed fast?!?

I read this somewhere, and please allow me to quote:

Why men are happy to be in a relationship with you

1)He needs to communicate with you
A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!

2)He wants to be your hero
Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman ?to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true.

3)He strives to make you happy
The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going ?but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over.For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that ?he feels as though he is in charge ?he is once again someone's knight in shining armour. If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much ?you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.)

4)Sex makes him feel loved
Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no sex = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other women or ignores you.Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women

5)You are his (secret) reason for living
He needs you because you inspire him to do better ?he has someone to do things for, goals to reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world. What's the point of being disgustingly rich and powerful if there's no one to share it with? What he needs is the gift of you.

Note the 4th point:
4)Sex makes him feel loved

And you know what? I was all ready to believe this crap!

yes, i really did, in fact. Sex makes a man feel loved.

If that is true, why is there a need to get a woman in bed fast? I will so spit at you if you are going to answer point 2)He wants to be your hero.

In the world today, where people sleep with people more often than they actually have a nice conversation with each other.

I can't help wondering, where is the love that is supposed to come hand-in-hand with the sex?

Sex is more traditionally defined as making love. It is (by right) the act of 2 people really in love with each other, expressing their love.

In france and other parts of Europe, (maybe including USA, but I cant vouch on that), people go for regular tests for STDs. AND the medical proof has to be presented, before you actually have sex with another person.

Incredible isn't it? and unbelieveable as well. I guess, for now, it is as important to protect yourself, so as to enjoy yourself?

But this also goes to show that how often people sleep around.

I wonder, when someone, with a rich sexual history, actually decides to settle down, will he/she be able to be sexually faithful? After years of sleeping with just anyone you find attractive, isn't it difficult to stop harbouring those thoughts again when you see someone visually attractive?

Will they be able to completely settle? emotionally.

Anyway, another interesting thing I came to find out is that almost all french ladies start to be on the pill since 16 years old.

so as:
-not to get pregnant
-to have regular periods
-to have less menstrual pains.

In Singapore, I doubt there is a widespread practice of exchanging of medical proof and regular pill eating.

Now, you see the sexual cultural difference?

by the way, I have been following that above 5 points of why men are happy to be in a relationship with u, as close as I can. You know what? it works! He became more loving, understanding and patient than before. Try it out, sisters!